Are You a Guy Who Fantasizes of Becoming a Woman?
Transsexual admirers and the objects of their affections often have a great deal in common.
Certainly, a lot of this shared harmony has to do with the fact many male admirers are actually cross-dressers at heart. Most stay in the admirer role because they believe they could never look even remotely feminine. Thus, they're attracted to t-girls in a sort of symbiotic relationship that fulfills their personal need to express a desire to dress. Weird, huh?
Years ago, my old friend Anna Christopher told me she polled a group of male members at her pay site and ascertained that only about 20% had any interest in dressing. Personally, I never bought that number. Based upon my experience? I would put it closer to 70% - if we got them to be totally honest. As I recall, she asked the question in a group chat format: not exactly the idea place for a masculine ego to lower its guard.
Like their transgender counterparts, admirers that secretly desire to dress come in all shapes and sizes. For instance, some are only mildly interested in expressing their feminine side - and simply enjoy an occasional moment in the wife's pantyhose or silky undergarments. For others, their greatest fantasies revolve around being dressed as a gal - and having sex (often with domination) with one or more beautiful (and very functional) transsexuals. The rest? They usually fall some place in between these extremes - depending upon their mood.
A large percentage of guys attracted to transsexuals are actually closeted, fetish cross dressers. Thus, part of their attraction to a transsexual is rooted in their own desires to be her.
I’d been thinking about this for awhile - but it took a bold letter from a site visitor to give me the outline I needed to organize my thoughts. This nice gentleman asked a series of questions which provided the outline I needed to jumpstart this page. Thanks "Tom" & I hope you find this information of benefit. **kiss**
Hi Renee,
Because your such an experienced t-girl, there are some questions I'd like to ask you. First of all though, let me compliment you on your wonderful and very helpful website. Okay, here we go...
Over the years I've discovered I feel strongly attracted to Transgendered Girls. I also feel attracted to genetic girls, but not in the same strong way. I've been wrestling with these feelings and I don't know really what to do with them.
First of all, should I consider myself an admirer or an emerging t-girl? I read on your website that you started as an admirer, so I don't really know which category I fall in.
Second, could I be happy with genetic girls? I do feel attracted to them, but far less than to TG-girls.
Third, is it realistic to pursue a relationship with a t-girl? Could it make me happy, or would my expectations or fantasies never live up to the 'real thing' ?
Fourth, should I tell friends or family about this? I haven't told anybody yet, and I don't really feel comfortable about the idea of telling this to other people for obvious reasons.
I hope these questions aren't to hard for you to answer.
Thanks for the trouble,
Tom
Letter Response
First off, my gut instinct says that if you have to ask yourself this question - you already know the answer. ((hugs)) What you are really trying to figure out is: "Could you really ever look like the woman you'd like to be?" Not sure about that?
Here's a crude but I consider fairly accurate acid test for which side of the gender stick you're probably on. When you fantasize about being with a t-girl, do you think most about you being on top of her - or her being on top of you?
Why do I ask that? Well, it's been my experience that most of those who prefer the idea of being on top - are more into just the erotic sensation from a t-girl encounter. Likewise, those who derive most of their pleasure from being on the receiving end of the business - are usually a girl at heart.
What a lot of you conveniently forget is very few of the gals you see on line live full time as women.
Transformation specialists can make any guy look like a woman. Pulling that effect off in public without attracting attention? That takes practice. However, the joys associated with the practice is part of the fun of the transgender journey.
If you’re privately harboring a desire to be a girl - I’d strongly suggest you short your focus to the cross dressing section of my website. No amount of vicarious experience you’ll find with transsexual women will ever satisfy this need in comparison.
Additional chapters Included in This Section Include:
TS Dating Attraction to Transsexuals
Transgender Date: Transgender Sexual Orientation
Sorting Out Your Sexuality with an Attraction to Transgender Women
Transsexual Dating: The Five Most Common Types of Transsexual Admirers
"Accidental" Transsexual Orientation
Are You a Guy Who Secretly Fantasizes About Becoming a Woman?
TS Dating: Common Traits Between TS Women & The Guys Who Seek Them
How TS Admirers Evolve in Their Attraction
Date a Crossdresser: What Men Tend to Like Most About TS Women
What Men Tend to Dislike About TS Women